Are relationships a source of heartache and frustration?

  • Is your partner not willing to attend couples therapy, but you know something needs to change?

  • Are you dissatisfied with your marriage and engaging (or thinking of) in an extra-marital affair?

  • Are you going through a separation or divorce -- needing help to steady yourself?

Intimate relationships can be a source of great strength and satisfaction, but when they fall apart they can lead to deep despair and helplessness. Relationship dissatisfaction is the primary cause for partners to stray (physically or emotionally) and for marriages to end in divorce. Often times, it can be difficult to pin point the exact reason or moment when your feelings soured, yet you know that you have been deeply unhappy for a long time.  

Whether you wish to remain in your committed relationship but know something must change, are engaging in an affair, or have recently begun the process of separation/divorce, your current circumstances do not have to stop you from creating more satisfying relationships.

With individual relationship therapy you can gain insight into the patterns that have engendered the negative dynamics with your partner/ex-partner to forge a path forward where you feel empowered and solid with your place within romantic relationships.  

 

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MAKING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS BETTER STARTS WITH YOU

Individual relationship therapy is the primary way through which you can begin to uncover the underlying vulnerabilities that have sealed you off from your deepest needs and desires.  

WHETHER YOU ARE DISENCHANTED WITH YOUR MARRIAGE, TRYING TO GET OVER A BREAK-UP, FANTASIZING OR ACTING ON HAVING AN AFFAIR, I CAN HELP YOU WORK THROUGH THIS COMPLICATED AND EMOTIONALLY CHARGED PERIOD TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT FROM ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS.

I have successfully worked with countless individuals by providing them with the guidance, process, and emotional space needed to truly understand what informs their behaviors and internal dialogue when they are in intimate relationships. Our sessions will be driven by the ultimate goal of getting you to a place where you can finally find emotional intimacy without fear and claim your authentic voice.

 

YOU MAY STILL HAVE QUESTIONS… HERE ARE SOME COMMON ONES:

  • “How will anything change with my marriage if I’m that only one going to therapy?”

As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. But change requires at least one of you to gain insight and take new steps in the dance that perpetuated disconnection – what you’re your moves in the dance? Where did they come from? What can you start doing differently? Even in couples therapy, it’s the small shifts in one partner’s sense of self and perceptions that begin to turn things around. Because I have worked successfully with many partners, I am able to reflect back to you what may be going on for yours while helping you clarify your experiences within marital/romantic dynamics. Many times, the partner who did not want to come in for couples counseling becomes curious about the changes that are happening to the partner that he/she will eagerly want to also join the therapy sessions.

  • “I’m afraid that if I start sharing about my infidelities, it will mean my marriage is doomed?”

Whether it began with unhappiness in your marriage or there is a history of sabotaging your relationships, working through the origins of why and how you are having an affair will open up your eyes to parts of yourself that you have been trying to keep tucked away. Allowing the sessions to shed light on those parts will help create a more cohesive and truthful identity whether you decide to remain or leave your marriage in the end. If you choose to stay in your marriage/relationship, we will work together on closing the door on your affair and learn to step forward into your commitments in an authentic way.

  • “We’ve already decided to separate/divorce, what’s the point of revisiting the relationship that broke my heart?”

Going through a separation/divorce can be one of the most difficult experiences. You want to just be able to accept and move on, but if you do not process your pain and the loss of the relationship that you are leaving behind, invariably, history will repeat itself or you will always carry an armor that will prevent you from being in the loving relationships you deserve. Our sessions won’t be about taking things apart, they will focus on fostering resilience in order to move forward, while having a clear understanding of what you want from your next relationship based on what you’ve learned from past mistakes.

 

RECLAIM YOUR VOICE THROUGH INDIVIDUAL RELATIONSHIP THERAPY

My extensive training and experiences working with couples and individuals who long to create more fulfilling relationships allow me to provide both a deep understanding of your individual pain while also keeping a birds-eye view on what makes meaningful relationships work. No matter where you are in your journey, relationship therapy can help you reclaim your voice and step forward authentically.

 

*** To find out more, I invite you to book a FREE consultation with me. I offer in-person psychotherapy (in Westport, CT) and online counseling throughout Connecticut and New York *** 

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It takes two people to create a pattern, but only one to change it.
— Esther Perel
 
 

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