My role is to provide you with the best Relationship COUNSELING approaches (with a healthy dose of reality) to explore and address the stuck places that get in the way of secure connection.
As a relationship expert and licensed psychotherapist, I have a deep appreciation and knowledge of what it takes to find and maintain secure intimacy in our contemporary experiences of high expectations of ourselves, our marriage and family-life.
I am a certified Emotionally Focused Therapist who takes an integrative approach...
because WHEN IT COMES TO TACKLING MATTERS OF THE HEART, I DON'T BELIEVE IN ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL. I WANT THE PROCESS TO WORK FOR YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP (NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND!).
You will find as we work together that I am very engaged, collaborative, transparent about the process of therapy, and most importantly, sincerely interested in you and your relationship. Whether this is your first or tenth time in therapy, you will notice that my approach is highly experiential and goes deeper than just putting a band-aid on the issues that brought you to counseling.
I avoid holding a binary view of people and relationships. I can create enough space for differing perspectives and work through the gray areas that make each relationship unique.
In both couples counseling and individual therapy, I bridge to world of attachment theory and differentiation. In other words, I conceptualize you, your experiences, and your relationship with a keen understanding for the integral role of our earliest relationships and experiences, our innate need to form a secure bond with another, and what happens when we cope with life when that need has not been met. I also bring a strength-based approach to highlight the importance of resilience, setting healthy boundaries and enhancing the qualities that make you who you are.
In couples counseling, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) , which is recognized as the gold-standard of couples counseling by the American Psychological Association, informs the process and experience of our sessions. However, I always integrate learnings from my countless trainings with various leaders from the field of psychotherapy and couples counseling.
And because I know that a fulfilling relationship often entails both emotional security and sexual intimacy, I am certified to assess and provide counseling to address issues of sex/sexuality and when sexual partners are not on the same page about their intimate lives (aka, desire discrepancy).
Lastly, if your marriage is on the brink and you feel stuck about whether you want to work on the marriage or divorce, I provide Discernment Counseling to help you gain clarity and certainty about the future of your marriage before you make this very important decision. I do not have preconceived notions about whether you should stay together or part ways. I believe it is important to explore such questions openly, honestly, and thoroughly. Once your goals are established, I will work diligently to support you in achieving them, whatever they may be.
Whether you come in as a couple or for individual therapy, I want to help you, first and foremost, feel grounded and secure in your sense of self.
My hope is for you to create a safe and emotionally open bond with your partner you have been longing for. I will work alongside you to rediscover (or maybe discover for the first time) a more honest relationship with yourself and your partner.
I can help you identify blind-spots that we all have about ourselves and our relationships -- I am confident in my skills to read between the lines by sifting through what you bring to the sessions in the here-and-now. Marriage counseling is hard work (many therapists won't go near it because of all the big emotions in the room and it's very high stakes) and it is my responsibility to provide with a safe and empowering space to discuss such vulnerable topics.
My clients describe me as focused, pragmatic, transparent, and able to bring a sense of lightheartedness in much needed moments.
While I prioritize in-person therapy sessions at my office in Westport, CT (Fairfield County), I am licensed in Connecticut and New York, which allows me to offer online Discernment Counseling, marriage counseling and individual therapy services when appropriate in both states.
MORE ABOUT ME AND AREAS OF INTEREST:
As a parent of two kids, who struggled with infertility, I have a personal appreciation for the challenges of creating a family and trying to maintain your sanity, while keeping your relationship alive. I have been published in a peer-reviewed psychological journal, interviewed for articles, and have presented at various conferences about counseling couples who struggle with infertility. I created the Westchester chapter for RESOLVE peer-support group and continue to advocate for family building rights. I have also completed training in screening and counseling individuals struggling with Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders. Visit my infertility counseling page to find out more about how I can help you navigate this challenging stage in your relationship.
I grew up living all over the world and as a result I'm fluent in multiple languages. My background not only makes me a very adaptable person, it also allows me to engage with others with a real appreciation for all of our multicultural nuances and an awareness for how they influence our relationships.
I love to read and learn. I'm a perpetual student of life. I draw so much inspiration from my readings (fiction and non-fiction) that broaden my mind and heart, which in turn lead to therapy sessions that are rich in analogies, evocations, and meaning. You will find that my readings strongly inspire my blog entries. Additionally, I share those reading with my clients so that they can continue to think differently about their relationship, their experiences, and the possibilities.
Ebru Halper, M.S. LPC/LMHC, NCC Connecticut License#LPC 003418 / NY License#LMHC 008600
Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) , a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), and a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC) by the National Board of Certified Counselors.
Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Supervisor-candidate through the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).
Certified to assess and provide counseling issues of sexual intimacy through The Institute for Relational Intimacy , which is under the auspices of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).
Active member of the American Counseling Association and the Internationally Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT). I abide by their ethical guidelines and norms.
Completed the Level I Gottman Couples Therapy counselor.
Completed Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders screening and treatment through Seleni Institute.
Master of Science in Mental Health Counseling from Pace University (New York) and recognized with the "Outstanding Graduate Student Award" (Pleasantville, NY).
Bachelor of Art in International Relations from Brown University (Providence, RI).
Prior to being a therapist, I had a successful career in advertising/marketing where I worked for some of the pioneers of Madison Avenue and many iconic brands.